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You may believe that as a leader your job is relatively easy, where you simply watch over and manage the behaviour of your employees; this is not so. As a leader, you have a number of responsibilities including not only watching over your employees but ensuring that they manage their work effectively and that they are happy.
It’s also part of your job to make sacrifices for the company and for those that work below you.
Not all of these sacrifices have to be extravagant or draw attention to your person, but they have to be made for the right reasons.
5 Sacrifices A Leader Must Make
sac·ri·fice [ sákrə f̄̀ss ]
- giving up of something valued: a giving up of something valuable or important for somebody or something else considered to be of more value or importance
1) Sacrificing Time and Energy
Giving both your time and energy…
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Toastmasters Zambia held a speech contest recently. The contest brought together students from three institutions of higher learning namely Cavendish University Zambia, University of Zambia and the Zambia Center for Accountancy Studies (ZCAS). The speech contest was won by 22 year old Bumbe Nsongela of Cavendish University Zambia. I had a chance to chat with her and this is how the interview went.
ICM: Tell me about yourself.
Bumbe: My name is Bumbe Nsongela, 22 years old and I am the third born in a family of five girls. I am a third year law student at Cavendish University.
ICM: What made you enter the speech contest?
Bumbe: The money ( laughs). That was a joke. I ‘ve always been interested in debate. This was not my first speech competition. I have taken part in debate competitions since I was at High School. In 2009, our school came out second in a MUVI TV Speech Battle. In my first year at university I came out best speaker in a faculty debate.
ICM: So you are used to winning eh?
Bumbe: No. I have lost some along the way.
ICM: How was the competition?
Bumbe: The competition was really tough. The guys were good-you heard them speak .
ICM: Did you think you were going to win from the beginning?
Bumbe: No. I didn’t think so. In the final I thought I would come out second, but the guy I thought was going to win didn’t do as well in the end. Maybe it was because of the crowd.
ICM: How was the feeling of winning the contest?
Bumbe: It was great. My family was there-they travelled from Ndola to come and support me.
ICM: What kind of books do you read?
Bumbe: Philosophy books. Gifted Hands by Ben Carson is my favourite. I read it for the second time last year. And there is a movie on that too. It’s really nice.
ICM: Who inspires you?
Bumbe: I guess my father-he has always believed in me. He has always encouraged me in my speaking.
ICM: What keeps you going?
Bumbe: I am a Christian and a youth, you know. Reading scriptures and having a relationship with God is what keeps me going. There is more to life than just living-everlasting life.
ICM: As an award-winning speaker, would you share some tips on public speaking?
Bumbe: You know, no matter how long you speak you never quite get used to it. These tips should help though;
- Be yourself. Be natural in your delivery.
- Be composed. The people are there because they want to learn something from you, so they naturally want you to succeed in what you are doing. Use that to your advantage.
- Be interested in what you are going to speak about. If you are not interested in what you are talking about it will show.
- Know your subject. You need to know as much as possible about what you are going to be talking about.
- Aim at reaching people’s hearts.
- Make the audience feel invited. Connect with them.
ICM: Where do you go from here?
Bumbe: Well, I am excited because next year I will be on the panel of judges for the Toastmasters Speech Contest. Other than that, school of course.
ICM:What is your word to the young people out there?
Bumbe: The best we need to succeed is within us. The greatest you is inside. There is something in each one of us. Search for it and find it.
ICM : Thank you very much for your time and congratulations once more on your victory.
Bumbe: You are welcome. Thank you.
“Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I’ll show you someone who has overcome adversity.” Lou Holtz
Let’s make one thing clear at the beginning. Life is a continuous succession of both small and large problems. Life challenges never end. No sooner do you get control of one situation when you are hit by another. When you become a great success, you simply exchange one type of problem for another. Before, you had small problems with limited consequences; now you have large problems with enormous consequences. No matter how smart and clever and careful you are, you’ll face life challenges, difficulties, and sometimes heartbreaking adversities every day, week and month of your life. And the truth is, you couldn’t possibly have become the person you are today if you had not had to contend with adversity on your way up. If your chief aim in life is to…
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Many of us go through life carrying a lot of unwanted baggage. And boy are they heavy! It is important to understand what to hold on to and what to let go. When you let go of one unwanted thing you create space for something wholesome to come in. Here is a list of but 12 things that you need to let go of. If you keep them on board your ship is bound to sink!
- Let go of postponing your happiness.
- Let go of the past.
- Let go of wanting things ‘here and now’.
- Let go of trying to impress everyone.
- Let go of your fears and worries.
- Let go of thinking that you are not good enough.
- Let go of always ‘wanting to prove a point’.
- Let go of self destructive habits.
- Let go of yourself.
- Let go of trying to be like everyone else.
- Let go of ‘friends’ who drag you down.
- Let go of letting go too soon.
If you keep postponing your happiness to some time in the future when you will have achieved something big, you are in for a rude shock. When I was at school I thought I would be happy once I finished school. When I finished school I thought I would be happy once I got a job. I got a job but I was not happy still. I always felt like there was ‘just one more thing’ to achieve before I could be happy. One day I realized that being happy has nothing to do with what you have achieved in life. Happiness is a decision. You must decide that you are going to be happy regardless of what does or doesn’t happen. It is one of those lessons of life I learnt the hard way.
“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”-Epictetus
The past is gone. Let it go. If you must look back, it should be in order to learn. The past should only be a reference point, not a limiting factor.
“Leave the past, engage the present, create the future.”-Julio Melara
Patience is a virtue. Many people could have been doctors but they thought seven years was too long a time to wait. For many of us even planting a fruit tree is too much to ask. We want the ready fruit ‘here and now’. You need to develop the discipline to WAIT for your tree of success to grow to maturity and give you the best fruit. But it’s not all about waiting. You need to tend it; water it, dig a hedge around it, prune it, fertilize it and all.
Your only obligation is to be true to yourself and to God. Mark this, if God is happy with you then all is well.
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” Will Rogers
There is nothing to fear apart from fear itself. You know, it takes more energy to worry than to pray and to plan combined! Stop worrying. Start praying.
“Which of you by worrying can add a cubit to his stature? So Why do you worry…?”-Mathew 6:27,28 (NKJV)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God made no junk. You are not inferior, only different.
Everyone knows how good you are, just don’t rub it in people’s faces. How do you like listening to someone who is always talking about how good or brilliant they are? Not very much, I guess. Let it go.
Deep down your heart you know what the right thing to do is. Why should you be your worst enemy? Let it go.
You are the one who keeps getting in your way because of your need for security. You are so caught up in your comfort zone. Get up and take a risk. The greatest risk in life is taking no risk at all.
“Ships in harbour are safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”-John Shedd
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
You were meant to be unique, to be different. Embrace your uniqueness.
“A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows the public opinion.”-Chinese proverb
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”-Mark Twain
There is a reason you were born without friends. All the friends you have are those you allowed in your life. If they do not add value to your life let them go.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great”.Mark Twain
Many people have their failures written on their first attempt. Success in life requires tenacity and perseverance. You cannot afford to be giving up each time you face a hurdle. Stay in there. How many times did Thomas Edison ‘fail’? No one said it was going to be easy. It only has to be worthy the effort and time.
“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we can reach the mountaintop of our desires.”-Nelson Mandela
You only have one pair of hands. You can only hold so much. Let go of all that unwanted baggage before your ship begins to sink, that is, if it is not sinking already. Be nice to yourself. LET IT GO!
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a poem by Tim Conner
Everyone wants success, and yet they often
don’t know when they have it.
For most, it is the maddening chase toward a better
way of life or more of something.
More fame, power, recognition, money, or material stuff. For some , it is the understanding of
a loving partner, the love of their child, or the people that they can count on when life throws
them a curve.
I am coming to believe that success is not more material wealth, but peace, happiness,
contentment, and love.
Most of all love.
Real success is not to be sought after in the outer world, but discovered in your inner world.
I am not condemning the stuff of life. We all want the things that life offers.
But we don’t need as much as we think we do.
Sooner or later you will discover that real success is friends, strangers,
and anyone who crosses our path.
It is kindness shared, support given and received, listening,
giving, and caring.
These will endure while your car rusts, your toys break, and you tire of the temporary
gratifications that bring you what you think is real.
What matters is people.
What lasts is love.
What counts are true friends, and if you treasure these
you can count yourself a success.