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Many of us go through life carrying a lot of unwanted baggage. And boy are they heavy! It is important to understand what to hold on to and what to let go. When you let go of one unwanted thing you create space for something wholesome to come in. Here is a list of but 12 things that you need to let go of. If you keep them on board your ship is bound to sink!
- Let go of postponing your happiness.
- Let go of the past.
- Let go of wanting things ‘here and now’.
- Let go of trying to impress everyone.
- Let go of your fears and worries.
- Let go of thinking that you are not good enough.
- Let go of always ‘wanting to prove a point’.
- Let go of self destructive habits.
- Let go of yourself.
- Let go of trying to be like everyone else.
- Let go of ‘friends’ who drag you down.
- Let go of letting go too soon.
If you keep postponing your happiness to some time in the future when you will have achieved something big, you are in for a rude shock. When I was at school I thought I would be happy once I finished school. When I finished school I thought I would be happy once I got a job. I got a job but I was not happy still. I always felt like there was ‘just one more thing’ to achieve before I could be happy. One day I realized that being happy has nothing to do with what you have achieved in life. Happiness is a decision. You must decide that you are going to be happy regardless of what does or doesn’t happen. It is one of those lessons of life I learnt the hard way.
“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”-Epictetus
The past is gone. Let it go. If you must look back, it should be in order to learn. The past should only be a reference point, not a limiting factor.
“Leave the past, engage the present, create the future.”-Julio Melara
Patience is a virtue. Many people could have been doctors but they thought seven years was too long a time to wait. For many of us even planting a fruit tree is too much to ask. We want the ready fruit ‘here and now’. You need to develop the discipline to WAIT for your tree of success to grow to maturity and give you the best fruit. But it’s not all about waiting. You need to tend it; water it, dig a hedge around it, prune it, fertilize it and all.
Your only obligation is to be true to yourself and to God. Mark this, if God is happy with you then all is well.
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” Will Rogers
There is nothing to fear apart from fear itself. You know, it takes more energy to worry than to pray and to plan combined! Stop worrying. Start praying.
“Which of you by worrying can add a cubit to his stature? So Why do you worry…?”-Mathew 6:27,28 (NKJV)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God made no junk. You are not inferior, only different.
Everyone knows how good you are, just don’t rub it in people’s faces. How do you like listening to someone who is always talking about how good or brilliant they are? Not very much, I guess. Let it go.
Deep down your heart you know what the right thing to do is. Why should you be your worst enemy? Let it go.
You are the one who keeps getting in your way because of your need for security. You are so caught up in your comfort zone. Get up and take a risk. The greatest risk in life is taking no risk at all.
“Ships in harbour are safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”-John Shedd
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
You were meant to be unique, to be different. Embrace your uniqueness.
“A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows the public opinion.”-Chinese proverb
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”-Mark Twain
There is a reason you were born without friends. All the friends you have are those you allowed in your life. If they do not add value to your life let them go.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great”.Mark Twain
Many people have their failures written on their first attempt. Success in life requires tenacity and perseverance. You cannot afford to be giving up each time you face a hurdle. Stay in there. How many times did Thomas Edison ‘fail’? No one said it was going to be easy. It only has to be worthy the effort and time.
“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we can reach the mountaintop of our desires.”-Nelson Mandela
You only have one pair of hands. You can only hold so much. Let go of all that unwanted baggage before your ship begins to sink, that is, if it is not sinking already. Be nice to yourself. LET IT GO!
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It has been said that life does not require that we be perfect. It requires that we learn. There are 7 lessons that each one of us must learn and travel with in this journey of life. These are not the only lessons life may require us to learn, but they are definitely on top of the list.
1. The lesson of Love
Self love is more important than the love of others. Before you expect the love of another, you must love yourself.
2. The lesson of Happiness
It must never get into your head that happiness has to do with what you have. No amount of money can buy you happiness. If you want to be happy you must choose to be happy, regardless of what does happen or doesn’t happen. It’s as simple as that. Happiness is a decision you make.
3. The lesson of Forgiveness
In this life, things do go wrong-and they will go wrong! The most important thing is to learn to forgive those who step on your toes. Now, if you have noticed, most people who step on you won’t notice it. It is your duty to tell someone if they are hurting you.
Sometimes, you will screw up. Learn to say “I am sorry”. You must also learn to forgive yourself.
4. The lesson of Patience
You must learn to be patient with yourself, and with others. Patience is a virtue.
5. The lesson of Fear
We all know that FEAR is simply False Evidence that Appears Real. Before you can conquer the world, you must conquer your fears. The way to conquer your fears is to face them.
6. The lesson of loss
Life is a series of partings. The old must go in order to make way for the new. There are things you need to let go in order to create a life that you envision. The habits of yesterday will only take you where they took you before. Let go of bad habits and bad relationships. Let go of anything and everything that drags you down.
Sometimes, however, loss will be of a different kind; the loss of a loved one. If it hurts (and it usually does) go ahead and cry. Let it out. We don’t have to understand why the people we love should leave us. We only have to understand that God’s perfect will is at play in our lives. Maybe now is the time to tell them what they mean to us before they are taken away.
7. The lesson of Authenticity
There are too many carbon copies in the world. In order to find your place in the world you must find yourself first. Quit trying to be like him, or like her. Trying to be like someone else is a total waste of time. The world is waiting for the manifestation of the real you. Remember that your first duty is to be true to yourself.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Oscar Wilde
Deep inside all of us, we know there is someone we were meant to be and we know when we are becoming that person. The opposite is also true; we know when something doesn’t feel quite right and we are not the person we were meant to be.
Life is a journey. Let us continue to learn as we travel.