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Many of us go through life carrying a lot of unwanted baggage. And boy are they heavy! It is important to understand what to hold on to and what to let go. When you let go of one unwanted thing you create space for something wholesome to come in. Here is a list of but 12 things that you need to let go of. If you keep them on board your ship is bound to sink!
- Let go of postponing your happiness.
- Let go of the past.
- Let go of wanting things ‘here and now’.
- Let go of trying to impress everyone.
- Let go of your fears and worries.
- Let go of thinking that you are not good enough.
- Let go of always ‘wanting to prove a point’.
- Let go of self destructive habits.
- Let go of yourself.
- Let go of trying to be like everyone else.
- Let go of ‘friends’ who drag you down.
- Let go of letting go too soon.
If you keep postponing your happiness to some time in the future when you will have achieved something big, you are in for a rude shock. When I was at school I thought I would be happy once I finished school. When I finished school I thought I would be happy once I got a job. I got a job but I was not happy still. I always felt like there was ‘just one more thing’ to achieve before I could be happy. One day I realized that being happy has nothing to do with what you have achieved in life. Happiness is a decision. You must decide that you are going to be happy regardless of what does or doesn’t happen. It is one of those lessons of life I learnt the hard way.
“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”-Epictetus
The past is gone. Let it go. If you must look back, it should be in order to learn. The past should only be a reference point, not a limiting factor.
“Leave the past, engage the present, create the future.”-Julio Melara
Patience is a virtue. Many people could have been doctors but they thought seven years was too long a time to wait. For many of us even planting a fruit tree is too much to ask. We want the ready fruit ‘here and now’. You need to develop the discipline to WAIT for your tree of success to grow to maturity and give you the best fruit. But it’s not all about waiting. You need to tend it; water it, dig a hedge around it, prune it, fertilize it and all.
Your only obligation is to be true to yourself and to God. Mark this, if God is happy with you then all is well.
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” Will Rogers
There is nothing to fear apart from fear itself. You know, it takes more energy to worry than to pray and to plan combined! Stop worrying. Start praying.
“Which of you by worrying can add a cubit to his stature? So Why do you worry…?”-Mathew 6:27,28 (NKJV)
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God made no junk. You are not inferior, only different.
Everyone knows how good you are, just don’t rub it in people’s faces. How do you like listening to someone who is always talking about how good or brilliant they are? Not very much, I guess. Let it go.
Deep down your heart you know what the right thing to do is. Why should you be your worst enemy? Let it go.
You are the one who keeps getting in your way because of your need for security. You are so caught up in your comfort zone. Get up and take a risk. The greatest risk in life is taking no risk at all.
“Ships in harbour are safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”-John Shedd
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
You were meant to be unique, to be different. Embrace your uniqueness.
“A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows the public opinion.”-Chinese proverb
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”-Mark Twain
There is a reason you were born without friends. All the friends you have are those you allowed in your life. If they do not add value to your life let them go.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great”.Mark Twain
Many people have their failures written on their first attempt. Success in life requires tenacity and perseverance. You cannot afford to be giving up each time you face a hurdle. Stay in there. How many times did Thomas Edison ‘fail’? No one said it was going to be easy. It only has to be worthy the effort and time.
“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we can reach the mountaintop of our desires.”-Nelson Mandela
You only have one pair of hands. You can only hold so much. Let go of all that unwanted baggage before your ship begins to sink, that is, if it is not sinking already. Be nice to yourself. LET IT GO!
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a poem by Tim Conner
Everyone wants success, and yet they often
don’t know when they have it.
For most, it is the maddening chase toward a better
way of life or more of something.
More fame, power, recognition, money, or material stuff. For some , it is the understanding of
a loving partner, the love of their child, or the people that they can count on when life throws
them a curve.
I am coming to believe that success is not more material wealth, but peace, happiness,
contentment, and love.
Most of all love.
Real success is not to be sought after in the outer world, but discovered in your inner world.
I am not condemning the stuff of life. We all want the things that life offers.
But we don’t need as much as we think we do.
Sooner or later you will discover that real success is friends, strangers,
and anyone who crosses our path.
It is kindness shared, support given and received, listening,
giving, and caring.
These will endure while your car rusts, your toys break, and you tire of the temporary
gratifications that bring you what you think is real.
What matters is people.
What lasts is love.
What counts are true friends, and if you treasure these
you can count yourself a success.
To many people success is a white-collar job (which also implies a fat bank account), a flashy car and a three piece suit. That is what the world has told us to believe. But is that what true success really is?
The biggest fallacy is that success has been equated to money and vice-versa. It’s a tragedy! True Success consists in more things than money and material things. Ben Carson makes the point that successful people are not driven by the desire to make money. Successful people are driven by the desire to help others.
In the same line of thought, Barrack Obama agrees by saying that; “to live only for the buck shows a certain lack of ambition”. Obama puts across the idea that we should live for something larger than ourselves.
When people are dying, they do not wish that they had more money in their bank accounts. They regret that they were caught in the web of empty pursuit. They regret that they didn’t do the things they truly loved; they regret that they didn’t follow after the passions of their heart.
I must not be misquoted to have said that money is not important. The point here is that you should not trade all the important things of life just for money; things like relationships and your health, for example.
The Dalai Lama is amazed that people spend all their health in pursuit of wealth and then they spend all their wealth in order to gain back their health.
Take a moment to smell the flowers and to feel the wind. When you come to think of it, it is in little things that the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.
In the end, the only truly successful people will be those who spared a moment to touch a soul, to dry a tear-to change a life.
If you must know-the happiest people in the world are not the richest. Money can buy a lot of things but it can not buy you happiness. Happiness is an inside job. It’s a choice you make-you choose to be happy.
Being first in line?
Another thing the world has made us believe is that success is about being first in line.As long as someone else is doing better than you, you are a failure. That’s what the world is teaching you!
If you get an (A) and someone else gets an (A+) the world wants you to feel like a failure. Our parents and our teachers have failed in this department. They have made us believe that success has everything to do with the other person.
True success can not be measured by comparing yourself with others .An honorable person is driven by the desire to do better than he did yesterday, not by the desire to do better than the other person.
REMEMBER: the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. T rue success is a continuous journey of self refinement. What your neighbor has is not a yardstick to your success.
Go on and be successful. You are destined for greatness!